Conversations with the Kids

Conversations with the Kids
By: Karla Kristine Nelson

Whether our kids have been around for two years, twelve years or twenty-two years, the fact of the matter is that no matter how long they’ve been around, we’ve been around longer. But oftentimes, our wisdom, experience, and insight don’t seem to be of interest to them.

Is it our approach or their attitude? It’s sometimes hard to tell. But, here are three suggestions that hopefully will help your next heart-to-heart.

  1. Save assumptions for later. It can be hard when we think our kids are up to no good, but rather than hounding them over hearsay, ask them directly. A valuable lesson can be taught to our kids when we show them by example that inferring interferes with relationships.
  2. Respect differences. It’s easy to look back and compare our childhood or teenage years to theirs’, but the reality is – they are different. Generations change, and although there are similarities, if we expect their respect we ought to at least try to respect their experiences.
  3. Appropriately share. It can be easy to assume that because we’ve “been there, don’t that,” we have the 1-2-3 outline for every life scenario. But, the reality is that even if we do, that doesn’t mean they signed up to hear it. Instead of always giving your opinions, try sharing your stories.
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